Something I’ve been thinking a lot about recently. And I’m sure it’s a question on many other minds as well. . .
Where do we go from here?
How do we move forward?
Before I get into what I discovered about those questions, let me share with you my personal story about the last 5 months.
Just before the lockdown started, the deal on the house we had planned to buy fell through and since we’d already given our notice to vacate, we had to move from the townhouse we’d been renting for the past 5 years.
But we had no home to go to! So, we ended up in a hotel. We figured we’d be in the hotel for a few weeks and then we’d have a new home.
Then, the whole COVID thing happened. The lockdown started. And we got stuck in the hotel. Because the housing market slowed. Open houses weren’t happening. New homes weren’t coming on the market.
In May, we found another home. Turns out, though, that since it was a condo, it wasn’t approved for the VA. The HOA was willing to go through the certification process which typically takes about 60 days total.
However, the owner of the condo, who had relocated out of state, had turned the property over to a 3rd party – a relocation company – to act on their behalf and the relo co got impatient, selling the house out from under us about ⅓ of the way through the process.
Which means, we had to look for ANOTHER house. Again.
Now, my family needs at least 4 bedrooms plus an office space for me. That’s a problem because the average home in our area is only 3 bedrooms. And that means, it takes longer to find a suitable property in our price range because there just are not that many.
In fact, between March and mid-July when we found the current home we’re under contract for, there were a grand total of less than 20 homes on the market . . across TWO COUNTIES. . . that fit those requirements.
I know, I know. People can double up on bedrooms and when the kids were little, they did. But now I have a 22 year old son and a 16 year old son and trust me, you don’t want them sharing a room! LOL Plus, when this all started, my 19 year old daughter was still with us (she’s now got her own apartment as of June) and there was no way she was gonna share a bedroom with one of her brothers!
Then in mid-July, we finally found the right home. It took some time for it grow on us but we bit the bullet and made an offer, even though we thought it wasn’t quite ideal.
Because let me tell you – while I *love* my family. . . living with them in a hotel room that’s – what? – about 400sf +/- for over 7 months now, is exhausting!
Between this horrendous administration and the PTSD all of us probably have a result, the pandemic and ensuing lockdown, living in a hotel room with my family, and still trying to work, to help, to stay positive. . .
Let me be honest, I’m at the end of my rope.
I’m emotionally and mentally spent. We’re financially stretched. And I am just all-out fucking tired.
So, recently I started really thinking about those questions above: where do we go from here? How do we move forward?
And I don’t have a definitive answer for that right now but I can tell you one thing I know for sure:
We ARE all in this together. We have to be.
We have to learn how to communicate with each other, especially when we disagree. We have to learn how to collaborate because the coming economy and our very livelihoods, depends on it.
There can be no Us vs Them anymore.
We must learn to embrace our differences instead of letting them divide us and separate us. We must learn to set aside our biases and our attitudes and our opinions and offer grace and compassion and understanding instead.
That’s where I’m headed, and I sincerely hope you’ll join me in creating a world we can all thrive in.