Disrespect disguised as a joke isn’t a joke.
That’s one of the ways my ex-spouse used to try to control me (and the kids) and when I started calling it out, he got hostile.
One day we were driving down theroad when he said something completely disgusting and I told him that if he couldn’t say anything nice, I was pulling over and he could walk.
When he realized I was DEAD SERIOUS, he shut up. He fumed, silently, but he kept his nonsense to himself for the rest of the ride.
And I Know The Difference…